Don’t worry if you draw a blank when asked to introduce yourself in three words or with an interesting fact; most of our members say that the self-description aspect is the toughest part about the entire online dating process. To make it simpler we’ve put together some tips and examples on how to turn your clichés into quirks and help your personality come through as much as it can in those few short sentences.
Straight to the point
Of course you want your description to say as much about you as possible, but that doesn’t mean you need to write an essay. If you focus on just a few interesting things about yourself it will make you stand out in the crowd more than someone who tells their whole life story. You want to leave them some things to ask about on your dates!!
Honesty is the best policy
Lying on your profile is not going to get you anywhere! Whether you lie in your description or elsewhere on your profile (e.g. about your height or age), it won’t help you past the first date. As soon as you meet them the truth will come out, and besides, why base your relationship on dishonesty? Start as you mean to go on…
Lists of adjectives don’t make an impact. Saying you’re ‘loyal, funny and down to earth’ is meaningless when there are thousands of other profiles that promise the same. Saying you’re ‘a fan of comedy films and pop music’ is also pretty unremarkable. Instead, focus on what makes you unique. If you do love comedies, what’s your favourite? If you’re a traveller, where is the best place you’ve been? Where do you dream of going one day? Music, sport, theatre, art, TV, literature… Tell us why you love it; tell us specifics that you love! Detail makes you more personable, makes you stand out, and makes it easier for someone to start a conversation; all of which will help you with getting a date.
Make sure you support your verbal information with a great set of photos – to illustrate your personality and the things important to you. These pictures should show you at your happiest, in the places that mean something and with the people you love. These pictures will act as great conversation starters and will help to add colour to your profile.
While it’s great to be confident, boasting is unattractive. There’s a clear line between the two – we recommend that you don’t cross it! If you’re unsure about your profile in this respect, why not ask a friend or family member to read over it? They’ll be able to tell you if you’re blowing your own trumpet too much.
Another good idea is to think about how your closest friend or family member would describe you if asked about you. Or why not go ahead and ask them?
If you are really stuck for ideas, here are some things you could include in your personal description:
- Hobbies and pastimes
- Who you like spending time with
- When you’re happiest
- What qualities are most important to you in a partner
- Your best quality
- Something you’re proud of
- Favourite memories
- Favourite food
- Favourite film
- Favourite band (…you get the idea!)
And don’t forget – whatever you choose, make it unique to you! There is no right or wrong. Now head back to HelloYou to give it a go.