A first date can be daunting, you’re meeting someone new and you have no idea where it might go! There’s lots of advice online about what to do and what not to do on a first date which can often be confusing.
When dating, I feel that everyone should always keep in mind that you’re there to be yourself. You’re not there to convince somebody you’re perfect for them, you’re there to be completely honest and meet someone who loves you the way you are, continuing to bring out the best in you. This is just one of the key things that I’ve learnt from dating, and here’s my additional first date ‘don’ts’.
- Be late
First impressions count! Now, you may be thinking, ‘But, Em! I want to come across as though I’m a busy, sociable person or in demand’. No. This isn’t the way to get things off on the right foot. Being on time falls under having basic manners. Besides, arriving early gives you time to collect yourself, feel comfortable in your surroundings, and even get a quick drink before your date arrives. Being late portrays a lack of care and effort, which for me, is an instant turn-off with a guy and certainly doesn’t set up the date to get any better.
- Tell your entire life story
I don’t want to know that you had a goldfish called Pepsi when you were five or that you’ve won over twenty awards for your company. The amount of times I’ve been sat with a date wondering when he’s going to ask me a question, and I’ve even cut a date short because I’ve ended up getting that fed up with their voice!
It’s important to keep the conversation balanced. Show interest, be honest, share stories but don’t keep it all one way.
- Pick controversial conversation topics
The last thing you want to do is become argumentative on a first date. Of course you’re both going to have individual opinions on various topics but it’s best to save that for at least date three! The first date is all about that initial ice breaker, lots of laughs and starting to get to know someone. Oh, and don’t talk about your ex!
- Be unauthentic with choosing how to spend your first date
When choosing what to do for a first date, make sure it’s something that you’re comfortable with and isn’t out of character for you. Again, you should just be yourself and do things that you both love. Plus, you don’t want your date to book a sushi restaurant if you hate sushi! Don’t be afraid to be honest and share your opinions on likes and dislikes.
- Have your phone out!
I mean is there seriously anything worse than talking to someone who checks their phone every two minutes to see if they have a notification? Again, complete turn-off for me. If you can’t sit there and interact with me without checking you’re phone – I’m out!
– Em from HelloYou –